A Lesson Learnt !

Every day all of us learn some lesson or other from life but either we remember it or it enters our sub conscious mind and used later. But there are some lessons we have to learn the hard way which is when we decide or avoid taking a chance next time!


There are two quotes which I believe in:-


1. The key that unlocks energy is desire. It's also the key to a long and interesting life. If we expect to create any drive, any real force within ourselves, we have to get excited. - Earl Nightingale 


2. Man proposes, God Disposes


But it was only when I experienced something  big that it came to my mind, that these two above quotes were linked !


As human beings, we all show different types of emotions. One of them being the excitement, some show that feeling of excitement for small things in life , some show for big, and there are some who do not show any excitement at all, at least not in front of others. I don't know which category I  belong to, probably for the small things. I would say over excited. I would act as though there is nothing in this world which would mean to me more than this. So because of this, my mother used to always tell me not to get too excited as things happen unexpectedly! You must be wondering what I mean! She basically meant that over excitement leads to getting things jinxed which I never believed it often. These kind of things have happened to me and I used to feel bad and act like a "sour puss" . But when this incident happened, I was shocked and felt awfully bad that I had to experience this kind especially when we were entering the year entering mode.


We are a gang of 8 and half ( including the kid) out of which 4 of us are the constant and the other four are the new entries. We get along like house on fire for the last couple of years. One thing all of us really look forward to is going to Goa for the New Year's. I am sure all of you know what  kind of place that is and why it is quite popular vacation spot. Honestly, in the beginning it used to be repetitious. But later as time passes, you realise, that you just cannot live with out it. So, coming back to the incident, we planned this trip to GOA 6 months back as we need to book the tickets and the room so that the rates are bearable ( at least the tickets)  and after lots of discussion, One of my friend who is in charge of this, went ahead and booked the flight tickets and I have been really counting the days for the last one month and half with out realising what would happen. My friend certified me as "Mad" as I was getting just too excited to think about other stuff in life ( which i loved it). 


Anyways, we decided to meet up on Christmas and labelled it as the "Pre Goa Blast" and again, I was unable to sleep the previous night as I was being enthusiastic. We met us on the 25th December 2010, and had the traditional gifts giving plus wine and plum cake.  All of us were on a high for two reasons, one is because of the cocktails and the second reason was the trip. So we stayed over night and after discussions and planning, left for our respective places the next day. 27th December passed off quite well as I was quite calmed down and busy with some house work. On 28th December, something dreadful happened! I was pinging my friend as I needed to know what else we need to carry, when the first thing she told me was that one of the members from our gang would not be coming, as his aunt passed away. I was in shock as I knew how badly he too wanted to come to Goa and party with us.  He had to be there to conduct the post funeral duties. That is when my eyes and mind opened up. I just could not get over the fact, that such things can also happen.What I meant was, I just could not digest the fact that I was experiencing this, My friend rightly told me that getting over enthusiastic, over excitement can sometimes jinx the situation. 


From last evening, I still feel guilty that because of this kind of feeling, some one else had to experience it. I know I cannot do much , but try and avoid this the next time. 


So my friends,  we keep advising our closed ones  "Hope for the best and prepare for the worst" and I am quite sure most of us  listen to the former and hear the latter. Also what I am trying to say is, it need not affect us directly, but  also indirectly. Seeing my friend missing this makes me feel horrible. If not for me, at least for my closed ones, I shall try to keep myself in control.


No wonder, they say, Man Proposes and God Disposes. Reality definitely bites... Ouch!!!

Kolkata - One of the Mysterious Cities in Our Mysterious Country

26th November 2010 - The plane was about to land in 15 min and I was lost in my own thoughts. "Did I really make a good decision? Am I expecting too much?" and then I convince myself saying " What the heck! I have managed to touch the eastern part of India?". True! I was travelling with my husband to Ranchi and we had to travel via Kolkata. As usual , I was quite apprehensive when I was informed that I would be travelling with him to this new place ! "Kolkata!!!! Why Kolkata! I don't think I am really keen except for the Howrah Bridge!" . But when I landed at , Netaji Subhash Chandra Bose International Airport, I realised that I would not be regretting my decision.


As soon as I landed in the airport, a sense of nostalgic feeling and attachment developed with in me. The airport reminded me of the old Bangalore HAL airport and the Mumbai Airport. When you come out of those airports, you see lots of trees , and the soil smells great. The reason we get attached and feel evocative, is we have been seeing these places from our childhood and there we have that  connection! It was 11 PM and we we were waiting for the cab. While my husband had gone to find the cab, I could hear a lot of birds chirping and tweeting. It is rare to hear the chirps in the night but felt good to hear it. We got a pre paid taxi ( must say it was definitely cheaper than Bangalore or Mumbai or Delhi) to drop us at the Inn and thus our journey began. 


Kolkata indeed had different shades of colour. While travelling to the hotel, I started comparing different areas to different cities and town but then as we saw the areas, I was running out of places and adjectives and that was when I realised this city had its own beauty and was difficult to correlate with other places. This city is so different during the day and the night time. On reaching the room, I felt really sleepy but also had the sense of excitement that I was going to see a new place.


27th November 2010 - A new day!!! ( made me think of the song "A new day has come" by Celine Dion).  The curtains were opened, and the view was amazing!! Hold on!! Before you start imagining the typical amazing view, with the greens and swimming pool types, this was a different scenery all together. We could see the main road, which was really wide and huge and right in front of us was an age old building. Or should I say an antique type of building which resembled a delicate fossil . I was amused to see this kind of shade on the first day of my stay. I imagined how actually these buildings would be. You touch it and CRASH!  Funny Huh!!!


We freshened up and then decided to go down for the breakfast. There were lots of fruits, very fresh and juicy apart from the regular idly dosa, baked beans etc. Also they served the sweet curds which they called Mishti Dahi.  I remember tasting this when I was pursuing my masters and it was more for khatta meetha , what we say in english, sweet and sour!!! I saw a lot of people preferring Idly Dosa compared to the other items. Yeah South Rocks as usual! Anyways after the breakfast, the real journey began.  


As soon as we came out of the hotel, things changed. Typically when you are in Mumbai or Bangalore, and when coming out of the hotel, you see all posh and typical urban life. But it was unlike in Kolkata. The hotel is amidst the busy street. One can see the street shops in front of brand shops like Reebok, Woodlands etc, Since I was there for only 2 nights, I really could not explore these areas though wanted to. We hired a taxi and decided to visit tourist spot - Howrah Bridge.


Being Indians, when one remembers Howrah Bridge, what does one think of? If you are a student and a lover of history, you would recollect what was being taught in Social Studies or the History Class. If you are a film buff, then it would be impossible to forget the song " Mera Naam Chin Chin Chu" enacted by Helen from the movie "Howrah Bridge" and if one is the typical die hard film buff, then another famous movie "Yuva" directed by Mani Ratnam has also been shot there.  I am belong to both these categories and any time prefer the former song over the latter. Thinking of Howrah Bridge gave me goose bumps and was keen to take a photo of me standing there. Also not every one knows that there is another name to this which is the "Rabindra Setu". I was flabbergasted to see the Hoogly river on the Bay of Bengal. But alas!! the dreaming of me standing on that bridge remained unfulfilled because of the weekend crowd and sadly lots of garbage. One can see that it was dominated by the lower middle class people and their slums. I don't know whether to express happiness or sadness or disappointment because irrespective of this people just live on and are happy or  is what I am assuming?  The major disappointment was when I saw how untidy it is and loads of garbage dump. I know a very close friend of mine would have broken down if she had seen this place and i really imagined how her reaction would be. Come to think of it, the famous, grand, distinguished HB, is a divider between the rich and the poor. Not that they don't belong or stay anywhere else, just that it is dominated by these people. This is what I felt when I visited the place. 


Once you cross the Howrah Bridge, you pass through the Howrah station, which is supposedly one of the largest station in Asia and world ( I think!). The architecture of this station, closely resembles the Chennai Egmore Station. It is definitely one of the busiest streets in Kolkata and trust me, if you are a person who hates the traffic in humid weather, this is not for you! 


After our visit to the Howrah Bridge, the second tourist spot was the famous Victoria Memorial which has the museum and the art gallery. I do love visiting museums but being a terribly moody character, I did not check out much inside as it was quite crowded being a weekend. The interior of the memorial is very very spacious and  huge .The best part of this place is, they don't permit carrying plastic bags, in short, it is a plastic free zone , so you can definitely find it clean and neat ,and of course no photography permitted. It is located in the middle of a huge garden and one side you can view the trees and the other side, the lake. One feels peaceful when walking or relaxing by the lake side. The road in front of the VM is quite wide and there is the VM round about. But if you are thinking that the roads would be really awesome, please come down to the reality. Except for the fact that the roads are good, it is not as neat you would expect. On the sides of the VM, there are couple of tangos where you need to pay for the ride. Nope, I did not go for it. :) 


From VM, we went to a relative's house which was located in Salt Lake City. The journey to that place was quite good as there was a chance to see the famous schools, the lovely fly overs. You can say the Salt Lake City is the new side of Kolkata where you can see lots of apartments and IT Tech Park there. Still lot of things coming up may be with in 5- 10 yrs.


It was evening by the time we reached the Park Street (where we stayed), and we had to rush for a dinner with a close of friend of ours. The night life in Kolkata is terrific and must also include that how much ever broad minded the bengalis are, they equally respect the tradition too. It was a beauty to see the wide roads lit. Sometimes we feel even two eyes are less to this. I mean it. And like I mentioned previously, there are so many shades and I feel these should be untouched because they bring out the beauty in the city. Anyways coming to our discussion, we waited in Park Street and after lots of confusion we decided to go and hog on an Authentic Bengali Food. Our friend Koel took us to 6 Ballygunje Place. This is located in a calm residential area. It is more of flats than the bungalows. I had the authentic bengali fish and chicked plus the veggie dishes. I am not a compulsive non veg eater but I love experimenting with food. 


The areas we passed by  some what resembles the MG Road in Bangalore. Also we saw the famous Haldirams shop and it was quite huge indeed. That reminds  to tell you that apart from the Bengalis, you can lots of Marwadis here. These people came down to Kolkata eons back and started their business. Apart from the famous bengali sweets, Kolkata is also known for cotton saree. The next time I visit Kolkata, I will definitely post some pics and mention the names. 


My favourite thing about Kolkata was the book stalls. After every few metres, you see a small book stall there and people buy lots of book. It was a pleasure to see this because this thing reminded me a lot about Bangalore. I felt like taking photos of every book street but the time was quite short.  Eventually I entered an Oxford Book Store on the Park Street. The moment I entered the store, I was on high because of the books , they smelt really awesome. Sounds Crazy doesn't it. You will find some kind of speciality or talent in almost every Bengali, Either a good singer, dancer, theatre or studies. They are supposedly good in debating!!!


Anyways, post dinner, we dropped our friend at her house and went back to the hotel. The drive was really exciting and amazing. Weekend, people go out and party. The most funny sight on the road is the parking. You would be really amused and stunned to see how these people manage to park their cars.Trust me, you might think I am exaggerating but I am not. The gap between two cars would be just few inches and I wonder how they manage to park or remove it if the gap is less. 


Oh!! Here is another thing you need to look out for... If you like going fast , then this is definitely for you. The cab drivers are quite rash in driving but amazing control. This equal to a roller coaster ride you have in any fun world and your heart beat almost stops for a mili secong.  It would be stressful to drive our vehicles on those road. No wonder they say if you can drive in Kolkata you can drive in any part of the world.. It is true.  I wish our Vijay Mallya can hire and train these guys for F1. Because they can definitely win hands down.


28th November 2010 - Another new day with mixed emotions.Why?? Cause, that was the day I would leaving this city with a heavy heart. Since we wanted to spend some more time out side, we skipped the breakfast buffet and visited the famous Flurrys. This is one of the oldest cafe in Kolkata located on the Park Street. It started on 1927 and still going on. This is definitely a must visit cafe if you love the authentic English breakfast ( when I say English, I mean the British types). We went there and had to wait for few minutes. This place always gets crowded. I could not conceal my excitement as I love the English Break fast next to the Indian Break fast. The English tea, with toast, egg omelet, Sausage.. Now I am feeling all the more hungry and drooling!! :)  This place is also known for exotic pastries, cakes, sweets. Since I am not a sweet fan, I am sorry friends, I will not be able to explain how the taste is . But the ambience is definitely calm and relaxing. A perfect place to spend the Sunday morning.


Post the breakfast, we had one last place to visit, which is the Belur Math.  It is one of the most enchanting temples in Belur and known for the serene, calm place. This was bought to existence by Sri Ramakrishna. Also this is the place where Swami Vivekananda stayed. The architecture is simple and very nice in its own way. It  has the temple, the museum and the places where Sri Ramakrishna and Swami Vivekanada Stayed. Visiting of weekends would not be as interesting as on weekdays as it gets a lot crowded. One gets to see a large lake beside the Math. It takes minimum of 45 min to max of 1 hr to reach this place. Photography prohibited.


By the time we reached the city limits, it was close to lunch . Also we had to check out of the room as we were travelling to Ranchi that evening. So once we reached the room, we did the packing and honestly, I felt incomplete as I felt some thing was missing. After checking out, we decided to go for lunch. On Saturdays and Sundays, the hotels usually get crowded. I must say Bengalis love eating but when it comes to outside food they prefer the non bengali cuisine as they feel that it cannot match the home food which is very true. The difference is that they are quite vocal about it. So we went to this place called One Step Up, which is a multi cuisine restaurant , as usual crowded. Vineeth and his friend took a thali while i ended up sharing the meal. It was quite tasty and definitely not the usual Punjabi Style. The Bengalis and the north eastern people prefer to use Mustard Oil than Refined Sun Flower oil or Groundnut oil. Probably which is why they have a good and smooth skin.


Though my stay in Kolkata was quite short, I really enjoyed the moments. People of different classes just minding their own lives and living up to it. Kolkata will definitely go a long way once there is a full fledged development and the labour is cheap. There are so many things that should not be touched or harmed as they bring out the exception and novel about the place. Not to forget, the tram in Kolkata is still being used. Only two cities had tram in our country. One of them being Kolkata and the other one being Mumbai. Unfortunately Mumbai does not have it while Kolkata maintains that to an extent. Bengalis are known to be quite talented and quite moody. But enjoy what ever they do and also complain equally. But no doubt Kolkata is indeed a city of joy because of the way the people live. Lot of famous personalities are from Bengal. Who can forget our Tagoreji ( though i am not a fan of his sangeet), SC Bose, Suchitra Sen etc. the list goes on. 


I will definitely upload some pics when I visit Kolkata again so that you can actually picturize yourself in this. I am sure irrespective of the humid weather, the un tidy roads, I would definitely look forward to visiting this place again. Eastern India has its own beauty and culture.


Love you all.. Love you Kolkata

Relatives or Friends!!!!

Many times I have had this discussion with every body around ( sometimes intentionally and sometimes unintentionally) on whether Friends or relatives are important in our life and the argument still goes on!!


Personally, I feel apart from my family members ,friends have played and still play a major role in my life but at the same time I keep wondering what roles to relatives play so much that our previous generation or our generations pay their due respect! Perhaps, there must be a strong reason  to this. Irrespective of the fact that most of the problems come because of relatives (not everybody but most!!), I have also observed that when it comes to good occasions, they play a major role in it. In India, the relatives play an important role no matter which side ( maternal or paternal) they are from. For example, in states like Karnataka and Tamil Nadu marriages , the mother's brother who is considered an uncle play a role in bringing the bride who is his niece to the podium . In Andhra Pradesh, the brother ( if not biological) plays a role in welcoming his would be bro in law. Apart from these, they play a role in organizing the functions and this symbolises unity which is one of the good things in our Indian Societies!!!


There are times we get so blinded by their presence that they begin to feel too important about themselves and take every thing too seriously so much that they start interfering in our family matter . Not every one encourages this but again not every one understands this. When you involve them in sensitive matters, be ready to get shot for this a good chance for them to show their authority and gossip comment etc...  This is a materialistic world, so don't be surprised when your closed ones ask you for some help  or involve themself and then a time comes when they just see through you . 


I don't say relatives are bad. But I feel one should maintain a considerable distance so that it would minimize the complications of a misunderstanding and like we people believe, the farther we are, the more closer we become. That is something I believe in. Knowing where to involve them or not is an important thing. But with friends, once in your life  you know you can share your thoughts worries and get help with your eyes closed. It would be easy for both of you to cope as the former (your friend) is an outside to the problem which makes it easy for them to have an open mind!!!


Lets be candid ! When it comes to attending a relative's function or best friend's function,  whose would you attend? I would prefer the latter (unless it is quite far and for some reason I cannot make it ) for the sole reason that I have grown up with her/ him and that person means a lot to me. Probably if that my relative was exceptionally close, I would genuinely work on trying to attend!


It's impossible to consider relatives as close as my friends because the number of relatives is infinity and how well do you do know them to be very close to you. Probably if you were born and brought up in a huge closely knit family, it would be easy  but not in every case. But again in our country as long as you are a part of a huge family, the tendency to for them to understand your point of view is very less. Salutes to those who are very close to their relatives and respect those who don't think the same!!!


That is why  Ethel Watts Mumford a famous US author says 'God gave us our relatives; thank God we can choose our friends'.


Cheers to Friendship anytime and every time!!!


Keep Smiling :)

Why Candies and Bubblegums????

The original name of this title was supposed to be Bubblegums and Candies which is  actually a book written by Preeti Shenoy. But since I did not want it to look like a copying, I thought it would be good to put it the other way round!! Thanks for the inspiration Preeti!!!

This is a general blog about life, food, travel and different thoughts. I look myself as Jack of all trades and master of none..... This is a typical Gemini Character and I have this in me though my star is Cancer!! Anyways, since I write my diary quite often, the thought of blogging came to my mind.

Life is like candies and Bubblegums. Either you savour the taste ,sucking the juice (like a candy) or you keeping chewing the gum, extract the best and spit it out ( like a bubble gum). When I say savour the taste , it means enjoying the moments which happen and save it in your memory and when it comes to chewing the gum, it means think, implement or execute what ever you get and dispose the waste and also it means trying to relax your mind ( which is many sportsmen especially the cricketers prefer that).

I hope you guys enjoy the blog!! I am open to comments!!!

Wish me Luck!!!!